{"author":"Lukasz Laniecki","author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki","total_quotes":26,"quotes":[{"text":"An approach, according to which children should fulfil their parents’ dreams/ do everything in order to make their parents happy/ provide their parents with a peace of mind, or whatever they want for themselves - because they owe it to them for all those years in which their parents took care of them - is utterly selfish.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["career-choices","career-paths","children","controlling-parents","family","family-pressure","free-choice","freedom","happiness","life","parents","success","young-adults"],"id":14394,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"They know a lot, but they don’t know everything, and they can’t advise you on anything.They can only tell you what they believe worked / or didn’t work for them.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["career-advice","career-choices","career-paths","children","family","ilife","life-advice","life-choices","parents","success","young-adults"],"id":20822,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"Parents like to think of themselves as Batmans, and of their children as Gotham Cities. Gotham City depends on Batman for its survival, and Batman delivers. This belief prevents parents from letting those young adults actually live their lives.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["career-choices","children","choices","experience","learning","learning-process","life","life-choices","mistakes","parenting","parents","success","young-adults"],"id":34369,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"Mistakes are part of life. And yet, for some reason, most parents in this world, wish their children made no mistakes at all, or as little as possible.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["children","controlling-parents","failure","family","life","mistakes","parenting","parents","success","young-adult"],"id":50437,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"We grow up in a belief system according to which children should always make their parents proud and happy (instead of making themselves proud and happy) - and that’s unfortunately the belief system in most cultures.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["career-choices","children","controlling-parents","culture","family","family-pressure","free-choice","freedom","happiness","life","life-advice","life-choices","parents","society","young-adults"],"id":123282,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"Our parents are not the only people on this planet, and we should not base our life choices on what they want (what will bring them a peace of mind, satisfaction, and give them a reason to brag), but we should make those choices keeping in mind that there are upwards of 7,5 billion people in this world, and that we should use our talents and energy trying to improve the lives of as many of them as possible.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["career-choices","career-paths","children","controlling-parents","family","family-pressure","life","life-choices","parents","young-adults"],"id":137140,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"We feel stuck in a rut, unable to say ‘no’ to our parents, unable to put an end to their controlling behavior, unable to grab hold of our own lives, simply because we fear that we will hurt, insult, disrespect or disappoint our parents (entire families).","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["children","controlling-parents","family","family-pressure","fear","life","life-advice","parents","success","young-adults"],"id":195951,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"It’s safer/ easier to follow the script and complain how broken some things are in that script, than to attempt to change those things.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["career","career-advice","career-choices","career-paths","careers","family","life","life-advice","life-choices","life-paths","young-adults"],"id":207618,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"That’s not our role here, provide our parents with a “success story” to share at gatherings. Our role here is to contribute the best we can to the society. Use our talents and make sure we add the greatest value possible to other people’s lives.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["career-advice","career-choices","career-paths","children","controlling-parents","family","family-pressure","free-choice","freedom","happiness","life","life-advice","life-choices","parents","passion"],"id":221845,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"},{"text":"Young adults rebel against the pre-invented/ packaged world, but sooner or later they stop and they also become proponents of the tried and true.","author":"Lukasz Laniecki","tags":["human-behaviour","inertia","life","society","young-adults"],"id":264756,"author_id":"Lukasz+Laniecki"}],"pagination":{"page":1,"page_size":10,"total":26,"pages":3,"next":"?page=2\u0026page_size=10"}}